Today’s episode is a solocast where I document the steps I took in the first year after my divorce and what resources I used to turn my life around.

Topics I discuss:

• Stuck in self-fulling stories 
  • The internal dialogue that fed my victim mentality
  • Sought external validation seeking stories that positioned me as the victim and her as the villain
  • My competitive nature worked against me.  I needed to win.  She needed to lose.
  • My ego and unhealthy bruised bravado caused me to act childish  
  • Fear of being alone allowed me to sacrifice who I was.  
  • I had a fear of being accepted.
  • Tried to be the man someone else wanted me to be and not the man I know I am

• I was aware of what I was doing
• I took ownership of my part 
• Told myself different stories
• Surrounded me with healthy friends outside of the relationship that wasn’t jaded
• Lived each day in gratitude
• Built my confidence in mental and physical fitness
• Kept promises to me
  • Mental – Purposely did things that were uncomfortable
    • Cold showers
    • Challenge doing something new every day – Daily Stoic
  • Gratitude
    • 100 Days of waking up before sunrise and journaling
    • 100 Days of working out in a row for at least 7 minutes
    • Started A Tiktok Channel
      • Practiced moments of being my authentic self and risking the fear of judgment or ridicule
• Practiced Stoicism
• The Miracle Morning
• Focused on Boosting My Testosterone
  • Acupuncture
  • Slow Carb Diet – the 4-Hour Body
  • Supplementation
  • Spending time in nature
• Consumed Ownership type messaging
  • Extreme Ownership
  • Can’t Hurt Me
  • Crucial Conversations
  • Radical Candor
  • MFCEO – Andy Frisella
  • You Are A Badass – Jen Sincero
  • Mindset The New Psychology of Success – Carol Dweck
  • Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself – Joe Dispenza
  • F**k Your Feelings – Ryan Munsey
  • The Alter Ego Effect
  • The Four Agreements
    • Be impeccable with your word
    • Don’t Take anything personally
    • Don’t Make Assumptions
    • Always Do Your Best
• Focused on embracing an Alpha Mindset
  • Courage, Ownership, Action, Boldness, Authentic, Kind, Honest
  • The Daily Stoic
  • Marcus Aurilias Meditations
  • The Rational Male
  • No More Mr. Nice Guy
  • Dating Essentials for men
    • 30 rules
  • How to be a 3% Man

Pillars of Resisting Beta:

• Discipline
  • Delaying of gratification
  • Acceptance of responsibility
  • Dedication to truth
  • Balancing?
• Embracing discomfort
• Intentionality
  • Following a process, w/o worrying about the results
• Sharing the adventures of becoming a better man

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