Oct. 31, 2022
Andrew Bontz - My Better After Divorce Blueprint
Today's episode is a solocast where I document the steps I took in the first year after my divorce and what resources I used to turn my life around. Topics I discuss: Stuck in self-fulling stories The internal dialogue that fed my victim...
Today's episode is a solocast where I document the steps I took in the first year after my divorce and what resources I used to turn my life around.
Topics I discuss:
- Stuck in self-fulling stories
- The internal dialogue that fed my victim mentality
- Sought external validation seeking stories that positioned me as the victim and her as the villain
- My competitive nature worked against me. I needed to win. She needed to lose.
- My ego and unhealthy bruised bravado caused me to act childish
- Fear of being alone allowed me to sacrifice who I was.
- I had a fear of being accepted.
- Tried to be the man someone else wanted me to be and not the man I know I am
- I was aware of what I was doing
- I took ownership of my part
- Told myself different stories
- Surrounded me with healthy friends outside of the relationship that wasn’t jaded
- Lived each day in gratitude
- Built my confidence with mental and physical fitness
- Kept promises to me
- Mental - Purposely did things that were uncomfortable
- Cold showers
- Challenge doing something new every day - Daily Stoic
- Gratitude
- 100 Days of waking up before sunrise and journaling
- 100 Days of working out in a row for at least 7 minutes
- Started A Tiktok Channel
- Practiced moments of being my authentic self and risking the fear of judgment or ridicule
- Practiced Stoicism
- The Miracle Morning
- Focused on Boosting My Testosterone
- Acupuncture
- Slow Carb Diet - the 4-Hour Body
- Supplementation
- Spending time in nature
- Consumed Ownership type messaging
- Extreme Ownership
- Can’t Hurt Me
- Crucial Conversations
- Radical Candor
- MFCEO - Andy Frisella
- You Are A Badass - Jen Sincero
- Mindset The New Pschology of Success - Carol Dweck
- Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself - Joe Dispenza
- F**k Your Feelings - Ryan Munsey
- The Alter Ego Effect
- The Four Agreements
- Be impeccable with your word
- Don’t Take anything personally
- Don’t Make Assumptions
- Always Do Your Best
- Focused on embracing an Alpha Mindset
- Courage, Ownership, Action, Boldness, Authentic, Kind, Honest
- The Daily Stoic
- Marcus Aurilias Meditations
- The Rational Male
- No More Mr. Nice Guy
- Dating Essentials for men
- 30 rules
- How to be a 3% Man
Pillars of Resisting Beta:
- Discipline
- Delaying of gratification
- Acceptance of responsibility
- Dedication to truth
- Balancing?
- Embracing discomfort
- Intentionality
- Following a process, w/o worrying about the results
- Sharing the adventures of becoming a better man
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