Ep 45: Cracking the Pleasure Code: Exploring the Five Erotic Blueprints W/ Juliette Karaman

In this episode, our guest Juliette Karaman, a certified mind and body coach specializing in healing, trauma, and navigating body shame, joins us to discuss the decline of intimacy in long-term relationships and strategies to reignite passion and connection. The conversation revolves around the five ways to pleasure, similar to love languages: energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky, and shapeshifter, each representing a unique pleasure archetype.

Key Points:

The decline of intimacy in long-term relationships often results from a lack of communication, vulnerability, and prioritizing everyday tasks over quality time together.
Taking sex off the table and focusing on emotional connection can help revive intimacy in relationships.
There are five different erotic blueprints: energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky, and shapeshifter, each with its own characteristics, desires, and shadow sides.
Men may struggle with finding a balance between leading and surrendering in the bedroom.
Communication, feedback, and exploration are crucial for a fulfilling sexual experience.
Shifting the focus from orgasm to exploring and experiencing pleasure in the body can enhance intimacy.
External factors such as stress, hormones, medications, and environmental influences can impact intimacy and sexuality.
Creating a safe space for partners to express desires, boundaries, and preferences is essential.
Addressing past traumas and their impact on sexual experiences can contribute to healing and growth.
Curiosity, self-awareness, and self-reflection play a significant role in deepening intimacy.
Love languages and erotic blueprints help us understand and meet each other's needs.
Letting go of resentment and consciously working on creating a fulfilling sexual relationship is crucial.
Scheduling time together and setting boundaries when needed are important aspects of maintaining a healthy relationship.
Seeking support and guidance can help navigate relationship challenges and facilitate personal growth.

Quotes from the Episode:

"It's important to explore and communicate with your partner to understand their preferences and desires."
"Shift the focus from orgasm to exploring and experiencing pleasure in the body."
"We often don't receive in the same way that we give... For a woman, it's difficult to receive, for men, it's difficult to receive."

7-Day Homework:

Set a timer for 5 minutes and write down everything that annoys you in your relationship
Make a list of 10 things you love or loved about your partner
Schedule a date morning when you don't have phones or kids. Ask the question, "Tell me what you love about me? Tell me what you desire out of our relationship?"

Resources:

https://www.feelfullyyou.com

httpd://www.instagram.com/juliettekaraman

https://www.facebook.com/juliette.karamanvanschaardenburg

Note: The episode covers sensitive topics related to sex and sensuality. Listener discretion is advised.